Why Bother With Ceremonies?


Good ceremonies provide a bridge from one stage of life to another.

In Western culture, by and large, ceremonies are not hugely valued these days. The only time many people experience ceremonies is in the context of weddings and graduations.  And I don't know about you, but when I think of graduation ceremonies, I don't feel particularly inspired. In fact, most of the ones I've attended have been downright boring.

With weddings, there is often so much emphasis on external details like the cake, the dress, and the decor, that the ceremony can almost be an afterthought. Typically, only five percent of the budget is spent on the actual ceremony (including the officiant's fee), even though it is in fact the central - and only crucial - part of a wedding.

Even when a loved one dies, many people nowadays don't see the point in having a funeral.  Much less do folks see the need for things like coming-of-age ceremonies or ceremonies for parents-to-be and new babies, or for blessing and dedicating new homes. This de-emphasis on marking the passages of life through ceremonies is largely because fewer and fewer people are involved in religious bodies, which have been the traditional source of such ceremonies. 

But I submit that we have thrown the baby out with the bathwater. A ceremony does not have to be religious to be valuable; in fact, the more it's personalized to the participants' own beliefs and style, the more effective it will be.

A ceremony, when done right, is a transformational experience.

Ceremonies that mark rites of passage can become the bridge from one state of being, identity, or stage of life to another. In some cases, a ceremony is a great preparation for such a crossing, such as the blessing of a mother-to-be. When it comes time to give birth, the mother will be better prepared mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.

A ceremony well done, with awareness and intention, is the creation of an elevated or sacred space in which to connect fully with the story of one's own journey, which then, although it may seem counterintuitive, allows one to close one chapter of that story and move into a new one more clearly and confidently. The ceremony creates a safe space for, and spotlights that in-between moment in a way that the participant can surrender to and fully experience its mystery, power, and grace.    

Serving New Mexico's Enchanted Circle region and beyond.

Susan Carpenter Sims, Celebrant

Tel: 575.770.3946

susan@enchantedcircleceremonies.com

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